10 Acts of Kindness That Teach Us Strong Compassion Can Heal Lonely Hearts
· Bright Side — Inspiration. Creativity. Wonder.Loneliness has a way of making you forget that compassion exists. You stop expecting anyone to notice. And then something happens, a small act of kindness from someone with no reason to stop, and your sense of self-worth comes back online. These are 10 true stories of compassion finding people exactly when they needed it, and proof that the wisdom to show up for a stranger costs less than most people think.
- I missed my train to go home for Christmas from uni due to a crash near the station. I was completely broke and knew I wouldn’t be able to afford another ticket. Life had just got on top of me, knowing I’d have to spend Christmas alone in my tiny student house and not being able to see my grandad who was in rapidly declining health.
I was bawling my eyes out on the platform when a janitor(?) appeared out of a hidden stock room under a stairwell and brought me some tissues. He found out why I was so upset and said leave it to me. Took me to the customer service desk and got them to reissue me a ticket for the next train home. I was so thankful I started bawling again and he went on his way.
Then just before I was about to get my train he found me on the platform and gave me some snacks and a can of Coke, and it’s just the nicest thing anyone’s ever done for me.
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- As a young man, my social skills were... sub-optimal. That made for a lot of very lonely times in college — especially in the winter in a rural, northern community.
Anyway, one day I met a really sweet girl who could see past my flaws and insufficiencies. We got to talking, and discovered that we both wanted to catch a lecture that night, but neither of us had anyone to go with. We spontaneously decided to go together.
The speaker was really interesting, and afterward, we walked around in the snow, talking about a lot of things and nothing in particular. Although we lived on different sides of the campus, we agreed to meet for lunch the next day.
At the appointed time, she greeted me and handed me a brown paper bag. It contained a multi-colored, Dr. Who-length, hand-knitted scarf.
The previous night, she’d noted how cold I was, and decided to spend her night making a gift for me. No agenda, romantic or otherwise. Just “here ya go, I hope you like it.” Awkward as I was, I didn’t even know how to begin to thank her.
That scarf became my trademark. I wore it for years.
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- The library in my neighborhood has a small corner with daily newspapers, a few armchairs, and good natural light. I asked the librarian how long it had been there, and she said about four years.
She noticed that the same group of older people came in every morning to read the paper. It wasn’t because they couldn’t get the news elsewhere. They were lonely and wanted somewhere to spend time around other people.
She asked for the chairs, arranged the newspaper subscriptions, and set the corner up where people would naturally pass by. She realized that for some people, the library wasn’t really about books. It was about having a place to go.
That small corner became part of their daily routine, giving them somewhere to sit, read, and see familiar faces.
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- I told my coworker I just really missed home and most of all: a home-cooked meal. I was 19 and moved away from home for the first time to a big city for a job opportunity. I’d never been away from my Mom before, or even been alone for longer than like two weeks.
I could cook basically nothing, and everything I did was just missing something, so mostly lived off takeout and microwave meals, which I was starting to get really, really tired of. I just wanted a nice meal made with love and fresh ingredients.
Anyway, I told my coworker that and the next day she came in with five homemade meals in containers for me to eat for the next week. The day before she conjured up a conversation about allergies which I didn’t even think was anything more than a usual conversation, until the next day.
It made me cry, and she didn’t understand why I was so overwhelmed and surprised, because it was just something she did everyday but for her own kids. I don’t think I will ever forget it, it was truly just so so sweet, and the meals were so good, so comforting.
Truly tasted like they were just made by the hands of loving parent.
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- I got a call in the middle of a trip that something had happened to someone I love. I needed to get across the city but I didn’t know how to get there exactly.
I called an Uber and tried to explain the address while panicking and my driver said, “I’ve got it, relax.” He found the fastest route without asking me, and didn’t talk unless I talked first.
When we arrived he said, “I’ll wait here for 10 minutes in case you need to go somewhere else.” He waited 15. I didn’t need him, but knowing he was out there while I was inside was its own act of compassion.
He texted me the next day to say he hoped things were okay. I don’t know how he had my number. I’m glad he did.
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- I’m single at 38, working late shifts and I come home in the dark more nights than not. No family nearby. My elderly neighbor always seemed to have her porch light on when I pulled in. I assumed it was just something she did for herself.
But one day she mentioned she went to bed at 9 but she set the porch light on a timer for midnight on the nights she knew I worked late. She said, “I didn’t want you coming home to a dark street alone.”
She had noticed my schedule, figured out my shift pattern, and set a timer so I would always have a safe light on when I came home.
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- I was in NYC taking a lunch break at a job I absolutely disliked.
I was sitting eating alone at a McD’s and after about 15 minutes this man in his 40’s or 50’s (I was a 28-yr-old male at the time) goes up to me and says something like, “Hey man, you look really sad. Things will get better,” and just shook my hand.
Takes a lot for one adult man to offer that up to another strange man. Really cheered me up.
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- It was raining, and about eight of us were waiting under a small bus stop overhang. The bus was late, and there wasn’t enough room for everyone to stay dry.
A woman with an umbrella stepped out into the rain so someone else could stand under the roof instead. She still had her umbrella, but she gave up the dry spot.
When the bus finally arrived, she got on last. She saw that she had an umbrella and someone else didn’t, so she made room. Nobody asked her to do anything.
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- I lost my wallet at a market and the person who found it mailed it back to my address. It was on my driver’s license. Everything was still inside.
But there was also a small folded piece of paper. It said: “I saw the photo in your wallet. Beautiful family. I hope good things happen to you all soon.” The photo was of my 2 kids, my wife and me from a few years ago.
I don’t know who wrote that note or how they knew from a photo that I might need to be told things were going to get better. But I’ve carried that piece of paper in my wallet since then.
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- I’m a retired teacher. Money is low. For my granddaughter’s 14th birthday, I knitted her a pink cardigan. Took me 6 days.
When she opened my gift, she smirked, “Did the maid forget her sweater?” Everyone laughed. I couldn’t breathe when she took it and walked out of the room. I thought she was going to throw it away and I’d never see it again.
She came back wearing it in like 10 mins. She walked up to her friends and said, “My grandma made this.” The friend said, “Wait, she actually made it? That’s incredible.” My granddaughter looked at her for a moment and then she looked at me and she said, “Yeah.”
She crossed the room and hugged me and said, “I’m sorry, Gran. I’m sorry. It’s precious.” She wore it the rest of the party and when everyone left I saw her fold it carefully and set it on top of her pile. I was so confused.
Turns out, my DIL confronted her away from everyone and told her it was a gift from me. The smirk happened. The laugh happened. And then my granddaughter realized it was a mistake and apologized.
That’s the part I hold onto. A 14-year-old who had enough self-worth to recognize she’d done something small and cruel, and enough wisdom to go fix it. Safe to say, my DIL is doing a good job parenting. :)
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