Bengaluru man earning Rs 1.1 lakh monthly asks Reddit this one difficult question

A Bengaluru techie asked Reddit this one question that would change everything for him, which led to discussions about how remote work was forcing young professionals to weigh savings against independence and career growth.

In Short

• He earns Rs 1.1 lakh monthly and saves Rs 60,000 to Rs 70,000
• Office attendance dropped from 12 days to five, reshaping his calculations
• Living alone gave him freedom, friendships and personal growth without supervision

A Bengaluru-based techie sparked a debate online after sharing his dilemma about whether to continue living independently in Bengaluru or move back to his hometown now that his office only requires him to work in person five days a month.

The man shared his thoughts in a post on Reddit’s r/developersIndia forum, titled, “Should I stay in Bangalore or move back home? Need some perspective.”

In the post, the man explained that he is currently in his 20s and earns around Rs 1.1 lakh per month while consistently saving nearly 60,000-70,000 after expenses. According to him, his monthly spending in Bengaluru, including rent, food, and travel, came to roughly 30,000-40,000.

The turning point, he said, came after his company reduced mandatory office attendance from 12 days a month to just five.

He admitted that the change made him question why he was continuing to pay Bengaluru rent when he spends most of his time alone inside his flat.

The man further explained that his hometown is located around 500 kilometres away, making occasional travel manageable. While he said his family environment was generally healthy and supportive, he also confessed that moving back home after experiencing independent living felt emotionally complicated.

He wrote that living alone had helped him grow personally, allowing him to build friendships, enjoy freedom, and live without constant supervision or questions about his routine. At the same time, he acknowledged that returning home would dramatically increase his savings and potentially help him build wealth faster at a young age.

The man also mentioned that leaving Bengaluru could eventually impact his career opportunities, networking, and future job switches, especially considering the city’s strong presence in the tech industry.

“Moving home at 24 after living independently feels like a step backward in a way I can't fully explain,” he wrote, while also noting that many people who say they will “move out again later” often never do.

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The post quickly went viral within the online tech community, with users passionately debating the trade-off between financial savings and personal independence.

Many commenters strongly encouraged the man to remain in Bengaluru, arguing that his 20s were an important phase for personal growth, networking, friendships, and career-building.

Several users warned that moving back home might initially feel financially rewarding but could eventually become emotionally restrictive or socially isolating.

Others pointed out that he was already saving a substantial amount despite living independently, suggesting that the long-term value of exposure, freedom, and opportunities in Bengaluru could outweigh the extra money saved at home.

Some commenters who had faced similar situations shared that moving back to their hometowns had slowly changed their mindset, routines, and independence without them even realising it. A few said they later regretted leaving city life because rebuilding independence and social circles became difficult over time.

At the same time, others argued that remote work was fundamentally changing urban living patterns, with many young professionals beginning to question whether expensive metro-city rents were still worth paying when office attendance is minimal.

The post ultimately resonated with many young professionals navigating the same dilemma, balancing career growth, financial planning, independence, and the emotional pull of home in an increasingly remote-work-driven world.

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