Man Tells Girlfriend She Must “Earn” An Engagement Ring After 4.5 Years Together, Drama Ensues

18 Dec 2025, 10:14 by Oleksandra Kyryliuk, Justinas Keturka · Bored Panda

After years together, many couples feel comfortable discussing what their future might look like. Ideally, those conversations help confirm that both partners see the relationship moving in the same direction.

But when this Redditor had that talk with her boyfriend, it didn’t go the way she expected. As they discussed marriage and what that next step might involve, she mentioned wanting an engagement ring that felt special and showed real commitment. Instead, her boyfriend told her she would need to “earn” it—a comment that caught her completely off guard.

Not knowing what to make of the situation, she took to the internet to share what happened and ask others what she should do. Read the full story below.

While talking about marriage plans, the woman shared that she wanted an engagement ring that felt special and showed real commitment

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In response, her boyfriend told her she would need to “earn” it

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Readers labeled the boyfriend’s reaction a red flag and offered advice on what she should do next

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