Managing Grief While Working Amidst Wildfires

Celebrities aren’t the only ones affected by the wildfires in Southern California. A Black community was almost entirely destroyed by the Eaton fire. I know because my family has been in the Pasadena/Altadena area for five generations. Also known as Dena, north Pasadena and the city of Altadena have a culturally rich history and a large Black population. So much of what I love has been diminished to rubble.

Broken bits of memories— first playdates, first dates, first hair salon visits. So many firsts, gone, charred to ash, just remnants of an area that once represented Black prosperity and joy. So many people I know have lost everything. My cousin’s house is gone. My great aunt’s house is gone. So much is gone.

It’s important that both people and the media consider focusing less on celebrity and more on a historically Black community burning to the ground. Black people from parts of Altadena and North Pasadena haven’t just lost their homes. They have lost an entire community that was a testament to the power of Black unity and excellence.

Despite it all, I’ve managed to get (some) work done. Sadly, some people don’t have a choice but to continue working during the wildfires even while grappling with PTSD symptoms and utter despair. That’s why I have come up with a few ways for those who’ve been affected to manage grief while working through it all.

Practice Self-Care Whenever You Can

Practicing self-care doesn’t have to be expensive. Engage in activities that bring you a sense of comfort, like taking hot to cold showers, lighting candles, or bingeing a good television show. As I’ve watched parts of my hometown burn I’ve used music to practice self- care. If you are experiencing grief as a result of the wildfires or another major loss, music can be a powerful tool. Calming music can make you feel more grounded.

MORE FOR YOU
California Wildfire Live Updates: Death Toll Hits 24 As Authorities Warn Of More ‘Dangerous’ Winds
Today’s NYT Mini Crossword Clues And Answers For Monday, January 13
NYT ‘Strands’ Today: Hints, Spangram And Answers For Monday, January 13th

So can holistic practices like yoga and meditation. Know that the negative feelings and thoughts you may be experiencing as a result of grief won’t last forever. And Dr. Louise Stanger, a licensed clinical social worker with over 35 years of experience, specializes in substance use disorders, process addictions, mental health disorders, sudden death, trauma, grief, and loss. She wants readers to know that healing takes time.

“Remember that healing isn't linear. Someone might seem fine one day and struggle the next. This back-and-forth is normal and should be met with patience and understanding. The goal isn't to ‘fix’ their grief but to provide consistent, reliable support as they navigate their own path through it,” she said.

Get A PTSD Diagnosis and Medication

Those who lost their homes or spent time fighting fires alongside neighbors and first responders are likely grappling with trauma. While working can be a good distraction, it should not be the only thing holding you together. Consider getting a PTSD diagnosis, especially if you lost your home or witnessed the fire spread. Looking at photographs of burned buildings and businesses can trigger some negative feelings. Try to take a break from watching the news and look into seeking out therapy. Some virtual therapy sites are offering free sessions for those affected by wildfires.

If you feel traumatized by what’s happened you may want to consult a psychiatrist about getting a PTSD diagnosis and going on medication. It’s important to note that PTSD is an anxiety disorder, and that losing your home and community to a wildfire can result in lingering effects. You may have trouble sleeping, deal with nightmares, and experience anxiety. That is okay, but make sure to seek out resources to find support.

See A Therapist or Grief Counselor

If you’ve been affected by wildfires you might be experiencing mental health challenges, which can include increased anxiety, panic attacks, and more. Think about scheduling an appointment with a therapist or grief counselor. There are even grief counselors and social workers who specialize in sudden loss. Unfortunately, the fires in Southern California spread within a matter of minutes, leaving residents little to no time to collect pictures, family heirlooms, artwork, and other personal items.

Dr. Stanger reminded me that everyone’s approach to and experience with grief is different. For some people that may mean stepping back from work altogether. For others that could be overworking as a distraction. For many it will mean facing a harsh reality— that they’ve lost everything they owned and once called home.

“When experiencing loss, especially of one's home and possessions, it's essential to understand that grief is deeply personal and unique to each individual. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve, and no set timeline for healing,” Dr. Stanger told me. And she is right— grieving looks different for everyone.

For those of you who’ve been affected by wildfires know that working isn’t always the answer to dealing with grief. Sometimes it means prioritizing what matters most — family, friends, and your mental health. I want readers to know that while earning a living is important, getting support is more important. Hug your loved ones a little tighter today. Cherish fond memories of your home and community. And never forget that no matter what happens, you can always find a way to persevere.