Tell-tale signs you should get a 'sleep divorce' from your partner

According to psychologist and sleep expert Dr Lindsay Browning, there are multiple benefits of the "sleep divorce" trend including improved physical and mental health

Many couples share a bed with each other but a new trend is seeing many partners getting a "sleep divorce".

According to psychologist and sleep expert at And So To Bed, Dr Lindsay Browning, lots of celebrity couples such as Cameron Diaz and her husband Carson Daly have praised the benefits of sleeping in separate rooms, such as improved physical and mental health.

Although sleeping separately may feel like a step backwards in your relationship the expert shares how a ‘sleep divorce’ can not only help to improve your sleep quality but also has the potential to improve your relationship too.

Dr Browning says: “Sleeping apart can help couples feel less resentment as it gives time away from each other to get a better night's sleep without being disturbed. This is especially problematic if one person is a snorer, or tends to move a lot in bed, which may impact the other’s ability to get a good night’s sleep.

“This means that couples will be able to miss each other, whilst being able to enjoy their time together without being annoyed and easily irritated due to not sleeping well."

Below are her top tips for a successful "sleep divorce."

Improved physical and mental health

Dr Browing highlights the benefits of physical and mental health improvement: “Sufficient sleep should always be a priority because it can work wonders for our health and wellbeing, she says. "From improved productivity, immunity and brain function to increased energy levels, sleep can leave us feeling refreshed and ready for the day ahead.

“A lack of sleep can also contribute to poor mental health and increase the chances of anxiety and depression. Ensuring you’re well rested can contribute towards problem solving skills, better mood, ability to make decisions and overall enjoyment levels - which will be beneficial for your relationship!

Enhancing intimacy while sleeping apart

Despite there being concerns it could jeopardise your intimacy with your partner, the benefits are clear to see, she adds: “While sleeping in separate rooms can sometimes reduce physical closeness for couples, it also offers unique benefits and ways to minimise any potential drawbacks. When you’re well-rested, you may feel more energised, have a better mood, and be more receptive to physical intimacy with your partner.

“If you are worried about maintaining closeness, you could plan some ‘snuggle time’ in the shared bed before moving to separate rooms for sleep.

“Remember, your sleeping arrangements can be as flexible and adaptable as you like. Once this warm weather spell passes, if you found that sleeping apart has improved your rest, you could consider continuing the practice on weekdays when you both need more rest for work. Then on weekends, you can share the bed again, creating a balance that allows you to enjoy quality time together. “

Discuss your sleep concerns with your partner first

The expert believes it is essential to explain why you want to sleep away from your partner: “Telling your partner you want to sleep apart could risk them feeling unwanted and insecure, so it’s important to let them know the reasons why you want to try this new sleeping arrangement.

“If you have been struggling with your sleep, either due to night sweats or your partner’s snoring, it’s important to share this and communicate openly.

“Let your partner know that you love and appreciate them and how you believe the ‘sleep divorce’ will be beneficial for your relationship. Maybe this is by focusing on physical affection during the day or having weekly check-ins to see how the new sleeping arrangement is working for both of you.

Schedule time together before going to separate beds

Sleeping in a different bed doesn't mean you can't spend time with each other before bed, according to the expert. “When you sleep in the same bed as a partner, it can lead to bonding hormones (oxytocin) being released", the doc says. "For this reason, it’s important to still get that quality time together before you go to sleep.

“For instance, take the opportunity to snuggle up whilst watching a film before bed or schedule date nights so you still have that quality time to look forward to."