15 Things People Consider Attractive Until You Have To Actually Deal With It
by Benjamin Dzialdowski · BuzzFeedRecently, AO_KinkyCouple asked r/AskReddit, "What's considered attractive until you actually have to deal with it in real life?" Here are some of the top responses:
1. "Extreme spontaneity and constant unpredictability."
2. "Living on a small tropical island. Minor goods and services can be a huge struggle, like that one time the whole island was out of printer ink and I needed to get some legal documents sorted. Also, hurricanes fucking up your whole island every few years is not that fun. Also having to fly to another country for medical care that is anything more than an X-ray… or if the only X-ray technician on the island goes away for a couple of weeks to visit family."
3. "I’ve known a lot of guys in bands and people tend to think it’s attractive. Travelling all the time? Doing shows in bars multiple nights a week? Getting groupies? Yeah, not for me. I’d never date a guy in a band or a pro athlete for that matter. No time for me and women flock to them. Yes, I’m the selfish jealous type."
4. “'Mysterious' personalities."
5. "Constant confidence sounds attractive until you realise it can come with ignoring feedback or not admitting mistakes, and ‘being busy all the time’ seems impressive until you see how quickly it leads to burnout and no real balance."
6. "Facial hair on guys sounds hot until you kiss a cactus."
7. "Super gregarious, always telling funny stories, always wanting to go out and do stuff. Shush, I’m tired"
8. "Love bombing."
"I dated someone who would write me a literal love letter every morning through text. At first it was amazing, I’d never felt more treasured, but after a few weeks it got exhausting. I was waking up an hour early just to give myself enough time to respond with more than an ‘awwww that’s so sweet! I love you too.’
Eventually there was nothing left to say, and it petered off to your typical ‘good morning babe!’"
9. "Nymphomaniacs. People always act like it would be great having someone who wants to have sex all the time, until you actually have to deal with someone wanting to have sex all the time. Exhausting."
10. "Dating a rich, successful man. They like to make all the decisions. They don’t like being challenged or questioned. Most of them are difficult/egotistical/demanding (some or all of the above). It’s their world and you only live in it. For an independent, strong-willed woman, this all gets old real quick."
11. "I’d say aloofness or ‘go with the flow’ types. It sounds nice to me since I tend to overthink, but then you just become the person who handles everything when in a relationship."
12. "Muscular men."
"Everything revolves around their meals and gym time."