March, marriage and motherhood madness

22 Mar 2026, 11:25 by Guest Writer · TheCable Lifestyle

‎The month that stretched me in every direction and what I’m learning from it. March has been a month. Not the kind of month you post a highlight reel about. The kind where you sit on the edge of your bed at the end of the day and think, how am I carrying all of this at once?

Marriage. Motherhood. Building a dream. Holding a vision. Trying to be present for everyone while also trying to become everything God is calling you to be.

It has been tough. I’m not going to dress it up. ‎My husband and I have had disagreements this month. Real ones.

The kind where you go to bed facing opposite walls and wake up knowing you still have to figure it out because you chose each other, and choosing doesn’t stop when it gets hard.

We’re still learning. Still choosing. That’s the truth of fourteen years.

‎And then there’s motherhood.

My eldest is at the stage of secondary school decisions, and I need to be honest with you, no one prepared me for this. Not for the weight of it. Not for the conversations. Not for the way a decision about a school can crack open every fear and hope you’ve ever carried for your child.

‎I’ve been emotionally drained. The kind of drain where you pour into your children and your marriage and your work and your calling, and then you look around and wonder who is pouring into you.

‎And my daughter’s hormones? The mood swings, the push and pull, the moments where she needs me desperately and the moments where she doesn’t want me anywhere near her? Nobody warns you that your child growing up can feel like a kind of grief, even as you’re celebrating who she’s becoming.

So I’m calling it what it is.

‎March Marriage and Motherhood Madness.

‎Because that’s what it has been.

‎But here’s what I know, and this is the part I hold onto when the month feels like it’s winning.

‎God didn’t bring me this far to leave me in the middle of it.

‎The disagreements with my husband aren’t the end of us. They’re refining us. Every hard conversation is an invitation to understand each other more deeply. Every moment where I want to walk away and don’t, that’s the marriage working, not failing.

‎The exhaustion of motherhood isn’t a sign that I’m doing it wrong. It’s a sign that I’m doing it with my whole heart. And my daughter doesn’t need a perfect mother. She needs a present one. A praying one. One who shows up even when she doesn’t have the answers.

‎And the dream? The vision? It doesn’t pause because life is hard. It grows through the hard times. Every season that stretches me is building something in me that I’ll need for what’s ahead.

‎So if you’re reading this and March has been your month too, the kind that tests your patience, your marriage, your faith, and your sanity all at once, I want you to know:

‎You’re not falling apart. You’re being shaped.

‎Still here. Still married. Still mothering. Still building. Still believing.

‎And still choosing.

‎I’m Tobi Yusuf, a relationship mentor and space-holder for women navigating the quiet, complex realities of marriage. I write to name what many women feel but rarely say out loud, and to create room for reflection without blame or performance.

If you’d like to continue the conversation, share your story, or explore creating space for honest dialogue, you can reach me directly at tobi@tobiyusuf.com

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