Look, nobody’s perfect. We’re all human beings, and we all make mistakes. (Some more than others!) But whether you believe in objective morality or think that norms are all a byproduct of the society we live in, you can’t deny that some behaviors are a bit iffy and fall into a very gray area.
These are behaviors that you might be so scared of being judged on that you’d never admit to them aloud… unless you were protected by anonymity. Case in point, some members of the popular r/AskReddit community opened up about the most morally questionable things that they’d ever done. Read on for their candid stories.
Moral behavior is something that is accepted to be right in the society you live in. So, somebody who’s said to possess a good moral compass knows the difference between right and wrong and strives to do good things. What you decide to do when presented with a dilemma will reveal tomes about your character, values, and motivations.
Of course, as we’ve probably all experienced, life isn’t as simple as what you can see in movies or read in books. Telling good from evil can be very hard when there are so many complex motivations working against each other. To oversimplify things, you have to weigh what’s good for you personally versus what’s best for your social circle versus what society finds useful versus what the world needs.
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You could apply that framework of your versus others' needs to every single small decision that you make, but you’d probably end up overwhelmed and burned out. So, it helps to have general moral guidelines and frameworks to follow. These can be religious, cultural, legal, ideological, etc., with their own nuances, dogmas, and inconsistencies. One of the deepest literary ironies is that antagonists in stories strive to do good, as they understand it. However, their perception and vision clashes with that of the society around them.
Someone who is said to be immoral also knows the difference between right and wrong, as per Writer’s Digest. However, unlike a moral individual, the immoral person will choose to do the wrong thing, regardless. In short, they’re aware that their behavior goes against cultural norms and the understanding of what’s good. For example, someone who knows that lying is wrong but decides to lie anyway to improve their situation is acting immorally.
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Meanwhile, an amoral individual is someone who operates outside the confines of morality. They do not understand the difference between what’s right and what’s wrong, and they don’t care about these concepts at all.
The easiest comparison to make would be to say that robots or natural disasters are amoral. The former do what they’re programmed to do. The latter are simply part of the natural world.
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If you feel like you’d like to be a bit vulnerable, dear Pandas, feel free to share in the comments the most morally dubious things you’ve ever done.
What are some of the biggest moral dilemmas that you’ve personally found yourselves in? Why did you decide to do what you did? Have you ever had to atone for something that you deeply regretted? We’d like to hear about what you’ve been through.
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I put an old boss's number on public bathroom stalls. jlbradl I found a wallet on the ground and took the cash inside as payment (around $100), then I went to the post office and handed it in to be mailed back to the address. There were IDs, credit cards, Social Security cards, and a Covid card inside. I don’t feel too bad about it honestly. Can always make more cash 🤷🏽♀️. bikesboozeandbacon D**gged my step dad when I was 14 with ambien in his drink because my nana told me to. He was a violent man but when I say he slept for 2.5 days I mean it. Trekkingalong955 ADVERTISEMENT In third grade, I cheated on my history exam. In fourth grade, I stole my uncle Max’s toupee and I glued it on my face when I was Moses in my Hebrew School play. In fifth grade, I knocked my sister Edie down the stairs and I blamed it on the dog…When my mom sent me to the summer camp for fat kids and then they served lunch I went nuts and I pigged out and they kicked me out…But the worst thing I ever done — I mixed a pot of fake puke at home and then I went to this movie theater, hid the puke in my jacket, climbed up to the balcony and then, then, I made a noise like this: hua-hua-hua-huaaaaaaa — and then I dumped it over the side, all over the people in the audience. And then, this was horrible, all the people started getting sick and throwing up all over each other. I never felt so bad in my entire life. Don_Rudolfo My friend confided in me that her dad was SAing her. She cried and begged me not to tell anyone. I was scared, sad, and wanted her to trust me with this big secret so I didn't tell anybody. A year later her dad got caught (no idea the circumstances), and he was arrested and sent to prison for a long time. I feel so bad about it. If only I had told somebody, told my parents, told a police officer or SOMETHING, I could've saved her from another year of torture. I can't bring myself to talk to anybody about it. I don't know how to forgive myself for that. PartehBear ADVERTISEMENT Back when I was 14 and in school, I was the altar boy. Teachers’ favorite pupil. Everyone thought I could do nothing wrong. One day, while fooling around with friends, I drew an erotic art and left it under the desk. A teacher found it and escorted me to the principal. Out of fear of them calling my parents (my parents were strict af back then), I lied to the principal that it was my friend to do it. Of course, they believed me since I could do nothing wrong. Poor chap’s parents got called to the school and he received a severe scolding even when he was saying it wasn’t him, but me. Despite the ordeal, we still remained very good friends till we went to college and we lost contact after that. Hey friend, I’m sorry for throwing you under the bus for a mistake I made. I hope you can forgive me. SnoopyScone When I was in my early teens, my brother and I were shooting airsoft guns in our backyard. We saw a lizard start crawling up the side of the house and he bet me that I couldn't hit it. Brotherly rivalry blinded me and I went for it.
I was able to hit it first try (figured I'd miss since it was about 20 meters away), killed it instantly. I walked up to it and felt instant regret...18 years later I still feel remorse killing that lizard.
Sorry lizard...I'm torturing myself emotionally in repentance 18 years later... Tups104 ADVERTISEMENT When I was a kid I had a screened-in back porch I hung out on. Just outside this screen, I had a trampoline. One day, I was sitting on the porch reading and saw that a frog was hanging out in the middle of the trampoline. I then noticed that a little 4 foot snake was working itself up one of the trampoline legs and just as it succeeded in getting to the top, the frog realized the danger and hopped off the trampoline onto the screen mesh in front of me. The snake followed and got close, clearly desperate for a meal. Being the little 8 year old s**t I was, I simply flicked the frogs belly thru the screen and the snake caught the flying frog mid-air and began swallowing it. The frog (maybe a toad??) swelled up with air and then proceeded to let out a morbid whistle-like shriek as it was slowly swallowed. I’ll never forget that sound. DoggedDoggystyle I used to work for a network of hospitals on the financial side. Due to some internal screwup, a lot of calls ended up getting forwarded to me that shouldn't have. Things from patients calling to schedule appointments to important legal issues. For months I continually raised the issue of my personal cell phone getting forwarded a lot of important calls. The issue was never resolved.
Anyways a few months after the call forwarding thing started, the company decided to terminate my employment. We had a difference of opinion, I didn't like working 6 days a week and the company thought I should be working 7. However the calls never stopped getting forwarded to my phone.
Due to the unhappy breakup, I started just blocking all the calls getting forwarded to me and I never bothered to respond to a single voicemail or call I received. Additionally I got some pretty important legal calls that if not responded to in a timely matter would cost the company significantly. I never forwarded on or explained anything to anyone and I deleted the voicemails and moved on.
I know eventually stuff probably got figured out, but they had months to figure out their call issues and never did. Hopefully them facing legal blowback got them to fix things. tynorex ADVERTISEMENT I f****d a woman I wasn't even attracted to who my best friend had strong romantic feelings for for no other reason than I was drunk and depressed and thought "maybe a little s*x will give me a morsel of a dopamine hit." It didn't. I woke up the next morning (IN THE SAME HOUSE as my friend was in, the three of us had been hanging out and drinking together late into the night) and I was so drunk that when I woke up in bed with this girl, I thought to myself "Oh s**t I better get out of this bed or he's gonna hate me" but then I'm like "you know what, f**k it?" I went back to sleep and of course my friend woke up next and realized I was in bed with her.
This is a friend who's been with me since I was 6 years old. It was the most pointlessly selfish thing I've ever done in my life. It's the equivalent of stabbing someone to rob them of 2 dollars, I gained basically nothing from it. I still hate myself for it 11 years later. And fun fact: That happened a whole year BEFORE my rock bottom of depression and junkie behavior. xyanon36 ADVERTISEMENT When I was about 11 or 12 my parents let me have a slingshot (I’m pretty sure they gave it to me but it’s been 25 years so maybe not). I used to live by the woods and we had all sorts of animals in the yard. One time I wanted to see what it would really do if it hit one. I took a rock, and I shot it from maybe 7-8 feet away a bird sitting in its nest in a tree. I hit it square in the head. It fell out of the nest and hit the ground dead. Same as the story above, I felt immediate remorse, beyond that, when I looked into the nest there were three eggs. Not knowing what to do, and in fear that my parents would punish me severely, I never told anyone. I went back to the nest each day to check the eggs, they never hatched. I thought the remorse I felt from killing the mother was bad. It wasn’t until I was a little more removed from the event that I started to feel the real shame of not owning up to what I had done and maybe saved the babies somehow.
I still think about it 25 or so years later. Now I value all life, I won’t let my spouse kill spiders, and I always try and speak up for the defenseless. I also own my actions and try to always be accountable for their impacts. It was a tough life lesson but I am proud of the person it made me into. Aarbeast ADVERTISEMENT As a kid I kept some anole lizards in a jar for like a day or two and my cousin convinced me to dissect them. I still haven’t recovered from doing this. Peer-pressure as a kid sucks. Thrashed0066 Had an abortion.
Other than that I also put Lego in my Manager's coffee when I loaned him money and he didn't pay it back. concreteangel47 I once scared an entire group of people with just a penny above the doorframe to their hall.
I observed how many would notice and more who saw it got scared because they thought it meant some ominous thing.
It got so bad they turned around and walked around to the other side. anon ADVERTISEMENT Me and this girl spent a lot of time together while both of us were homeless. We were pretty destitute but we were getting by. I'd stay at a friends house, she'd do the same, and then during the day we'd hang out, apply for jobs, do our college homework. One day we stayed late on the beach and passed out at some point. When we awoke it was 1:00AM and we were completely alone. We made our way up to the concessions area in the parking lot from the beach, and my friend on a chance, slid the window open of the concessions building. We were hungry, so both of us climbed through the window to get some drinks and some ice-cream. She opened the freezer and went "DARB!" and pulled out a green deposit bag containing $200 in cash. Needless to say we stole the money, and lots of snacks.
It's something I regret, but the money did get me a haircut, and I got a job not long afterwards. Iamdarb ADVERTISEMENT I got a superiour fired at a job once because he refused to train me (because he held key knowledge and didn't want anyone to threaten his position).
He was a creeper and all I had to do was spin a tale about how much it upset me and he was gone.
I didn't make anything up, but I definitely played up how much it affected me. shaidyn Had a boss that I used to get along with before she got promoted. After that she was a whole different person, just very mean for no reason. I put in an one week's notice and she started to sabotage my work. So I stepped out one day, called the anonymous s*xual harassment hotline stating she was flirting with all the men on the floor (which she was) and it made me uncomfortable (it wasn't, I didn't care that much) and it nearly put one of my coworkers in danger (which it did). I walked out that day and never came back. A week later I hear all managers have to go through mandatory se*ual harassment training and had to have their certificate framed and in display for the whole floor to see. It felt so good, but I probably didn't need to do all that lol. Donna_Matrix699 ADVERTISEMENT I ate a baby toad once. Royalchariot I love frogs and when I was little I caught a little green frog and put him in a bucket
The poor thing cooked in the sun. Conscious-Holiday-76 So, my mom started dating this new guy. I never liked him. The worst part though is he had a kid too. The kid was a mess. Sloppy. Curly hair. Me and the kid were about the same age and we couldn’t stand each other. It was painful just being in the same room together.
Anyway, one day when I was home alone I placed my testicles on his drum set. ArthurSpoonr Someone contacted me and offered to pay for my nudes. I just sent him ones I've already posted online for free and got a few hundred bucks. TurnipEater ADVERTISEMENT One time when I was 10 I saw a stack of Pokémon cards randomly in the towel aisle at target and they were all new it looked like. I saw them and just pocketed them not really thinking much about it. Then when I got home I realized someone probably opened it off the shelf and just threw away the wrapper. Then I thought oh s**t i stole from target I’m gonna go to jail so I immediately threw the cards away. Target never found out. Dixiecupboi I stole two cloves of garlic from the grocery store. yukiseyo Was let go from my first job for making my boss look bad for finishing daily tasks too quickly, and being open about the division not being efficient. He made an example of me so others would back off. So when the company asked me to come in for an exit interview, I told them I had nothing to say but to follow my boss outside at lunch to the parking lot if you fancy an interesting view.
He was arrested for possession and distribution of c*caine, got a year in jail and life pretty much ruined. I bumped into him about 3 months after he was released while walking around a mall, and he told me I ruined his life, which I then came back and said "you had me fired for trying to make the company better, cheers."
Felt bad he got the year in jail, and looked like hell, but.... cpapimp ADVERTISEMENT My brother owed me $200 that i lent him when i was 16 years old. I busted my a*s helping a friend of my dad's lay tile for half my summer vacation.
As soon as i got paid, my brother hit me up for money.
Fast forward several months, still hadnt been paid back. I snagged $20 from his wallet to buy pizza for my friend and I.
Never saw that $200, never saw back most of the money i lent him, finally learned my lesson last year and went no contact, am 35 now. Travice0 As a teen. Catch lightning bug. Throw on ground. Smear it to see lightning glow. RIP lightning bug for a teenage curiosity. anon Sent an unsolicited d**k pic once. Never did before in my life and haven't since. I was at a very low point and hate myself for doing it. I apologized profusely and got lucky she was cool about it, we're actually good friends now, but i still regret it.
Just don't do it guys. InformalPenguinz ADVERTISEMENT I rush to storefront doors so i dont have to hold it open for anyone. It's not that I don't like to, it's just so awkward seeing people do a little mini sprint, and the timing is almost always off... Sigh.. then they might try talking to you and i just really wanna go in and out. Griefer17 I installed Windows 11 on someone's computer. Ok-Let4626