Yes, You Can Have Sex While on Your Period

Getting your period doesn't automatically mean you're putting sex on hold for the next five to seven business days. Sure, you might be dealing with cramps, bloating, and a strong desire to be left the hell alone. But you might also be horny. And if that's the case, there's no reason a little blood has to get in the way of a good time.

In fact, if you're wondering how to have period sex, the good news is that it's generally safe and miiiight even help with some discomfort. “From a medical standpoint, there's no reason to avoid sex simply because you're menstruating,” says Jedidah Nuamah, MD, a board-certified ob-gyn. Of course, whether you're actually interested in getting it on while bleeding is entirely up to you. No pressure either way.

Sure, the thought of getting blood on your sheets (or your partner) might not exactly turn you on, but that doesn't mean period sex is off the table (or, erm, floor). And between a few strategic towels, some comfortable sex positions, and a little communication, period sex doesn't have to be nearly as complicated as you're imagining. Ahead, experts break down everything you need to know about getting it on during that time of the month, including how to keep things comfortable, what to do about the mess, and the safety precautions you shouldn't skip.

Is It Safe to Have Sex on Your Period?

Not only is period sex generally safe, but depending on how your body responds to your cycle, you might actually enjoy it more than usual.

“Some [people] even notice increased arousal or sensitivity during their period,” says Dr. Nuamah. And if you're dealing with cramps, an orgasm might offer a little relief. According to Rachel Needle, PsyD, a certified sex therapist at Mila, orgasms release endorphins and involve pelvic muscle contractions followed by relaxation, which may help ease menstrual discomfort.

That said, don't toss your heating pad just yet. Dr. Nuamah notes that while some people experience temporary cramp relief after orgasm, there's limited scientific evidence that orgasms reliably treat menstrual pain. Others might not notice a difference or could even feel more uncomfortable.

And while period sex is generally safe, it isn't entirely risk-free. You can still get pregnant or contract a sexually transmitted infection (STI) while menstruating, so contraception and safer-sex precautions still matter. More on both below.

If sex is consistently painful or your periods come with debilitating cramps or unusually heavy bleeding, Dr. Nuamah recommends checking in with your OB-GYN.

How to Have Period Sex

Period sex doesn't require an entirely new playbook, but a little preparation can make things more comfortable (and save your sheets).

Prep for a Little Mess

First things first: Blood is probably going to be involved. Throw down a dark towel, keep some wipes nearby for cleanup, or take things to the shower if you'd rather skip the laundry altogether. You can also wait until a lighter-flow day if that feels more comfortable.

If you're planning on vaginal penetration, make sure to remove your tampon or traditional menstrual cup beforehand. Some menstrual discs are designed to be worn during penetrative sex, but Needle says to check the manufacturer's instructions first. And remember, menstrual discs don't protect against pregnancy or STIs.

Use Lube

Yes, even if you're bleeding. While menstrual blood might provide some natural moisture, Needle points out that it's not a substitute for lubricant. Adding a little lube can help reduce friction and make penetration more comfortable, especially if you're feeling extra sensitive.

Find a Comfortable Position

There's no universally perfect period sex position, so prioritize what feels good over keeping your sheets spotless.

If you're dealing with cramps or tenderness, Needle suggests side-lying positions for gentler, shallower penetration. Being on top is another solid option since you can control the depth, angle, and pace. And if you're mostly worried about the mess? Lying on your back over a towel makes cleanup pretty straightforward.

Remember, Penetration Isn't Required

Not in the mood for penetrative sex? Don't force it. Period sex can include oral sex, clitoral stimulation, mutual masturbation, or whatever else sounds appealing.

And yes, oral sex during your period is generally safe, too, provided everyone is comfortable with it. Just remember that menstrual blood can carry certain infections, so using a dental dam or other barrier can help reduce STI exposure. Needle also recommends avoiding direct contact with blood if someone has cuts, sores, or bleeding gums.

Can You Get Pregnant During Period Sex?

Yep, you absolutely can. While your chances of getting pregnant during your period may be lower than at other points in your cycle, they're definitely not zero.

“Your period is not birth control,” says Dr. Nuamah. “Sperm can survive in the reproductive tract for up to five days, so if you ovulate earlier than expected, pregnancy is possible.”

This is especially important if you have shorter or irregular menstrual cycles, since ovulation doesn't always happen when you expect it to. Translation? Just because you're bleeding doesn't mean you're in the clear.

If you're not trying to get pregnant, keep using reliable contraception during period sex, just like you would any other time of the month.

Can You Get an STI From Period Sex?

Unfortunately, yes. According to Needle, menstrual blood can carry bloodborne infections, including HIV and hepatitis B. Exposure to blood may increase the risk of transmitting certain infections, although the risk depends on the infection and type of sexual contact.

The good news is that the same safer-sex practices you'd use any other time still apply. Condoms and dental dams can help reduce STI transmission, while regular testing and open conversations about sexual health can help you and your partner make informed decisions.

How to Talk to Your Partner About Period Sex

Talking about period sex doesn't need to be a big, awkward conversation. If you're interested in trying it, Needle suggests bringing it up casually, ideally outside the bedroom, so neither person feels put on the spot.

You can keep it as simple as, “I'm on my period, but I'm still in the mood. How do you feel about that?” From there, it's just a matter of figuring out what you're both comfortable with, whether that's putting down a towel, sticking to nonpenetrative activities, or saving sex for another day.

And remember, there's a difference between having a preference and making someone feel bad about their body. Nobody should feel ashamed for wanting period sex, and nobody should feel pressured into having it, either. The goal is to find something that feels good for everyone involved, even if that means skipping sex altogether.